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Social Repair Loop
Apology on a Long Fuse
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Step 1 of 6
Social miss or rupture
Moment 1 of 6
Social miss or rupture
Followed in this loop by
RSD and threat spike
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After a difficult interaction, finding words or reaching out can take time. Uncertainty on either side can make reconnection feel harder.
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Needing People While Leaving the Room
The Alarm That Feels Like Shame
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A tiny social signal hits like an emergency — not mild sting, full alarm.
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The Script That Costs Your Voice
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Running a social script so hard you lose track of who’s underneath.
Explore in fieldWhen Mistrust Fills the Gaps
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Missed cues, repair delays, and RSD can nibble trust on both sides.
Explore in fieldWhen Care Goes Quiet in the Dark
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Care stays, but the felt closeness can drop when someone isn’t present.
Explore in fieldBeing the Same Person Across Days
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Hard to feel like the same person across days, contexts, or states.
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